Last updated: 17 December 2015
“I know what you’re thinking.”
Imagine being able to say that to another person…
… and then proving it to them.
Once you know the secrets behind Hypnotic Mind Reading, that’s exactly what you’ll be able to do.
Look inside their head.
Get glimpses of events from their past.
Find out how they’re really feeling right now.
Dazzle them with bits of information they’d never expect you to know.
Reveal “inside knowledge” about their personal life they thought was completely private.
Create the illusion of being able to get deep inside someone’s mind – and do it so convincingly that it becomes a reality.
How Does Hypnotic Mind Reading Work?
For hypnotists, language is everything. It’s the stock in trade that makes all the other bits and pieces fall into place. And the same is true with Hypnotic Mind Reading (HMR).
In a nutshell, HMR gives you another way of using hypnotic language patterns. It exploits the vagueness that’s built-in to language to distract and engage your listeners.
There are 5 core HMRs that will allow you to read people’s personalities within seconds of meeting them.
- The Delayed Echo HMR
- The Pure Flattery HMR
- The CAP (Covering All Possibilities) HMR
- The Barnum HMR
- The Universal Experience HMR
To use any of these, you have to put them into context. You need to give the person a reason why you’re able to read them like a book. Is it intuition? Body language? Are you simply accessing the psychic powers we all have access to?
HMRs work because they take advantage of ambiguous language. Words like perhaps, maybe, possible, a sense of, potential. It’s not a 100% accurate technique, but when it works it’s mind-blowing.
To be good at mind reading, you need to stay alert. Don’t just memorize a script. Watch people, notice how they respond, figure out what makes them react, and then tailor your language to suit it.
Reading minds using HMRs is a performance. It’s hypnosis. And just like any other form of hypnosis, it needs to be delivered effectively. Here’s how to do it:
- Make it meaningful – everything you say should mean something to your subject. Use the right tonality, power words when you can, and avoid saying things to simply fill gaps in the conversation.
- Keep it positive – this should be fun for your subject. They should be engrossed in what you’re doing and getting a kick out of it. If it’s not upbeat and constructive, they’ll switch off pretty quick.
- Reframe your mistakes – you’ll get things wrong. Guaranteed. When you do, use that knowledge to decide where to go next.
- Work from the general to the specific – start with tentative statements and refine them in line with the subject’s responses and reactions.
What you’ll discover is that HMRs are very intimate. After all, you’re poking around in someone else’s head. You’re extracting information that’s of great significance to them, so you need to treat it with respect.
When it works, people will think you’ve got some kind of magic power. They’ll be awestruck by what you know about them. And that might make them assume you can help them solve their problems.
Should they change jobs? Dump a boyfriend? Move to another country? Get married?
It’s tempting to offer advice, but it’s a bad idea. If things go wrong, you can bet they’ll blame it on you. The best way round it is to offer open ended suggestions that will help them decide for themselves.
You could simply ask questions, such as: Do you like the job you’re doing? Would a new job give you a better quality of life? Why do you think changing jobs might be a good way forward?
These types of questions should get them thinking, and then their subconscious will take over to fill in the blanks.
Leaving you free from blame and responsibility.
That’s how HMRs work. They need to be performed in the right context. So what are the 5 HMRs mentioned earlier?
HMR 1: The Delayed Echo
People like talking about themselves, and when they do they pass on information. Like where they’ve been on holiday, where they’re from, names of family members. They mention these things in passing, and your job is to pay attention. Here’s what you need to do:
- Remember the facts
- Don’t draw attention to the information
- Immediately start talking about something else
- Wait 5 minutes until they forget what they’ve told you
- Start mentioning the holiday/family member using different words or phrases than those used by the person
As you can see, the idea is to echo the facts – using different language – so they think you somehow “picked up” on it.
HMR 2: Pure Flattery
Flatter people by “perceiving” their inner qualities. The things you say might not strictly be true, but they’re traits that most people tend to identify with.
For example, here are some general traits that are effective with anyone of either sex:
- Hard working
If the person is female, you could say they are:
If it’s a male, you might describe them as:
- Good at problem solving
HMR 3: CAP (Covering All Possibilities)
This follows on from HMR 2. Instead of picking out one trait, you focus on two opposing qualities. First, the positive (helpful) and then the negative (impatient). Once again, stick to generalities and avoid quantifiable facts like the plague.
“You’re someone who likes to help others, but at times you can get impatient.”
As you can see, this might apply to anybody. The person will accept it because it shows them in a positive light first. To soften the edge of the negative trait, add some humor.
“You’re a very helpful person, but you can be snappy when your patience runs out.”
HMR 4: The Barnum
Named after PT Barnum of circus fame, this HMR uses a statement that’s very specific on the one hand but that could be true of almost anyone.
Start with a general statement, watch for a reaction, and then move into specifics. Use their reaction to your general statement as a guide to which direction you should go in. Here’s an example when the reaction is positive:
“You are a positive person – [watch for reaction] – when things go wrong you always find the silver lining. You see opportunities and make the best of things.”
And here’s an example when the reaction is negative:
“You are quite a dreamer – [watch for reaction] – but you never let dreams get in the way of your practical side. Everything you do is rooted in reality.”
This HMR uses flattery and also covers all possibilities. Try to use some negative traits so that your “reading” doesn’t come across as sycophantic or even improbable:
“You can be very hard on yourself.”
“You’re able to bear a grudge for a long time.”
“There are things in your past that you regret having done.”
HMR 5: Universal Experiences
Also called the 7 Ages of Man, this HMR relies on experiences everybody has at different stages throughout their lives. While they aren’t written in stone, they can give you an idea about what people are going through based on their ages.
- Age 11-18 – People start dreaming about their independence and are working towards establishing their own identity.
- Age 18-22 – Dreams become reality. They leave home and experiment with different lifestyles. Trying to prove they can make it in an adult world.
- Age 22-30 – People go in one of two directions: nest building or adventure. Seeking commitment or avoiding it. Career is often a major focus.
- Age 30-35 – People re-evaluate what they’ve done with their lives. Nest builders question their commitments. Others question their career path. Adventurers think about settling down.
- Age 35-45 – This is where midlife crises occur. People either settle down and have the kids they’ve been avoiding, or break free and look for new adventures. Life’s slipping by and time’s running out, so they want to make the most of what’s left.
- Age 45-55 – Careers are coming to an end. Everything depends on how the midlife crisis was dealt with. If dealt with well, they’ll feel reborn. If not, they’ll feel disappointed and hopeless.
- Age 55-75 – The end of working life. People have the time, freedom, and resources to travel more with fewer responsibilities. On the down side, health becomes a growing concern, friends die, and loneliness can be a real issue.
These facts can give you the “way in” to how someone’s thinking. Even if you don’t know their age for sure, you can estimate. Knowing roughly where they’re at in the life cycle makes it easier for you to read them.
Why use HMRs in the first place? If you do it well enough, it will give you some awesome street cred. But there are other, better reasons.
To be able to hypnotize someone, you need to break through their defenses. You need to get their attention as soon as possible. You need to bypass the critical conscious mind so it’s easier to implant suggestions.
In the end, it’s all about communicating with the subconscious. It’s just another way to switch off their logical, analytical brain. And if you can do it with a bit of pizzazz and finesse, none of that will matter anyway.
Because as far as they’re concerned, you’ll be reading their mind.